Is it possible to find love with someone who is a nudist when you are not? Although you may have a different opinion about whether or not to wear a swimsuit to the beach, you can meet your nudist (or sometimes referred to as “naturist”) date halfway. Instead of looking at the situation from a one-sided perspective (you may think that being naked is embarrassing whereas your date thinks its great), open your mind and embrace your differences. Regardless of whether he or she is a full-time or part-time nudist you can find common ground to cultivate a healthy dating relationship.
Steps
- Do your homework. Before you form an opinion about nudism or naturism, do some research to find out more about the lifestyle. For most nudists, being naked in a public (or even private) place has no sexual connotations, but practice the lifestyle because it helps them to feel free and one with nature. Special clubs, beaches and even conventions are dedicated to naturism, where entire families convene and celebrate being human and embracing nature.
- Determine how you feel about the topic. Your nudist date may have his or her personal opinion as to why the nudist lifestyle seems right, but you need to determine how you feel about the topic.
- You have no opinion whatsoever. Since your date can’t be naked 24/7 and probably commutes to work, interacts with people on a daily basis and lives in modern society, you may not have any specific opinion about his or her nudism because you are not exposed to it (or have limited exposure). In some cases, you may be able to date a nudist without having to be part of the lifestyle and keep dates to public places and traditional social gatherings--what the nudist does on his or her own time is fine with you.
- You are uncomfortable with nudism. Especially if you are uncomfortable with your own nakedness, you may be uneasy with your date’s nudism. Determine if you are uncomfortable around your date all the time or if the feelings of unrest arrive when he or she wants to be naked (while you are not).
- You are curious about the lifestyle. Perhaps you don't want to join the revolution, but perhaps you are intrigued by naturism. You may want to do your own in-depth research and then, when you feel as if your date feels comfortable, ask questions.
- Have a frank discussion about any hang ups. If this relationship is going to move beyond a few dates you are going to have to ask questions and lay your feelings out on the table.
- Choose an opportune situation to have the discussion such as over dinner or coffee. Select a time when he or she is not naked so you can focus on the topic instead of the fact he or she has disrobed.
- Determine when a discussion is important. If you have only been a few dates and like the other person, see which aspects of naturism you can work through on your own. You don’t want to embark upon a serious discussion about what concerns you early on and upset or freak the other person out.
- Get the root of the real problem. Before you embark upon your concerns determine which aspects of nudism bothers you most. Is it that your date likes to practice nudism in inappropriate times and places or are you uncomfortable that he or she is a nudist in general. If you are uncomfortable with nudism in general, the problem may have something more to do with your personal opinions and experiences versus what the other person is doing.
- Decide which aspects you can live with. If you really like the other person and want to continue dating him or her, you’ll need to determine if you can deal with his or her naturism. In many cases you can work out when and where he or she practices nudism.
- Establish times when nudism is off limits. If you aren’t a fan of naturism, but feel as if this is the kind of relationship you are comfortable pursing, lay down some ground rules so that everyone is comfortable. For example, if he or she likes to be naked at home but you are uncomfortable, make a rule that nudism is only o.k. when you aren’t around.
- Identify situations where you are o.k. with naturism. Situations include nude beaches, clubs or in private places--set clear rules about when your date should feel comfortable getting naked.
- Decide to be undecided. If this is your first experience with someone who is a nudist, try to remain open-minded and willing to embrace your date’s interest. That doesn’t mean that you have to become a nudist, however as your feelings develop for the other person, understand that you may feel more comfortable with naturism and may eventually see it as a healthy lifestyle.
Tips
- Explore different options of the nudist culture such as topless only or going to family friendly beaches or locales.
- Remind your nudist date to liberally apply sunscreen to every exposed area of the body. A nasty sunburn in certain areas of the body may create a hiccup in your love life.
- Understand that being a nudist does not make the other person perverted or sexually creepy. Do some research to understand the thinking behind the movement.
- Consider trying it if you are curious about the lifestyle.
Warnings
- If you are completely uncomfortable with dating a nudist be honest and discontinue dating the person.
Sources and Citations
- http://www.examiner.com/nudist-culture-in-newark/how-to-find-a-naturist-date
- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naturism
- http://usanudist.com/
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